I went to grief counseling last night and I am VERY proud to report that I finally confronted my sister. The issue is that she isn't ready to clean out my Mom's clothing and personal items from the house. My Dad is ready, but my sister is not. He asked us to handle this after he funeral and my sister has done a stellar job of putting it off -- it has now been 8 months. I think that is selfish and it irritates me that she isn't more considerate of him on this. Can you imagine looking at your wife's clothing hanging there every day and knowing she is gone? I think it is horrible.

Dad wants her and I to do this together. I'd be happier to do it alone. She made the statement she wasn't ready during our group discussion. I said that it is hanging over my head and the longer we wait the worse it is for me. She hadn't had that dose of truth yet so she looked stunned. I was thrilled when the other people in our group (people who have each lost a parent) said she needs to do it and stop putting it off. She said she can't before Christmas -- I said that was fine, but that we need to get it done. The group told her to be careful about putting the date off. I love them! I really needed the back up because my sister is a pro at playing the victim. I can't describe what a relief it is to have confronted her on this.