Warning: I'm going to bitch about my sister today. She is making me nuts again. A week ago we agreed that she would purchase the shower gift and wrap it for a wedding shower we were attending. I had done all the work on the last few showers so she was to handle this one. So I get a call on Thursday from her asking what was up with me. I filled her in on the amazingly shitty day I was having (nothing earth shattering, just a shitty day) and how exhausted I was as I was driving home from work vs. my class (I missed class after working late and was already lost, imagine my frustration). After I explain all that and more, she asks me to run to the mall to pick up the gift! 2 days before the shower and she hasn't done it yet. I said no I wouldn't and wished her luck.

What the hell? When you commit to something you commit -- don't dump it on the other person at the last minute!!!! She works less than me, has no kids, isn't taking 2 classes on top of a full time job, doesn't have issues daily with pain which have recently escalated, and has few obligations. She knows what is on my plate. How fricken dare she try to add to my load right now!? Bitch. I don't often compare my life's workload with that of someone else, (I've chosen my lot and like it for the most part) but for her to be dumping on me is ridiculous.

She is so darn wrapped up in herself she fails to see how easy she has it -- and in failing to see that she fails to recognize that anyone besides herself might be busy. Self centered bitch. If I was in charge of the gift I would have ordered it online and been done with it. SHE was in charge of it so I let her know that she would stay in charge of it since I didn't have time to run around to malls. So she was stuck and got the gift. You would have thought I'd slapped her.

So, I was to ride with a mutual friend to the shower and of course my sister decides to call Saturday morning so that she can come with us. I am always happier when she doesn't attend so this irritated me. We go to the shower and my sister is all about herself. She converses about her wedding this past August and is on a major compliment hunt. It is all about her and there is no focus on our current bride. My sister does the "poor me" thing as she complains that her husband had too big of an influence in registry choices because Poor K was still in grief and not thinking clearly. Please -- she registered before Mom passed! She is sitting here complaining about gifts she received in the midst of a group that showered her with more gifts that you can shake a stick at! How insensitive and self centered can you be? I was evil and said "that's what you get for giving in to him." Her dishes that she complained about are beautiful. She needs to let it go!!

Poor K (my sister) doesn't have kids but is a teacher. There is another guest at our table with a baby. Poor K had to show how smart she was by dogging this poor mother (who's son was just 2 weeks and cute as a button!) with the differences between girl and boy brains and recent studies on the subject. Poor K takes every opportunity to show off her early childhood knowledge and it really gets obnoxious. She has done this on multiple occasions and our mutual friend noticed too so don't think I'm over reacting here. Our friend was lucky enough not to have to sit next to Poor K. Unfortunately there were placecards at this shower so I was trapped like a rat. Finally Poor K went on her typical rant about the "at risk" kids followed by the "No Child Left Behind Act" rant. I got to hear AGAIN about her school district and it's problems. She paused for breath and I had my opening. I sighed deeply and asked if our table could please change the subject. I said this one depressed me too much and that we needed to find something else to talk about before I got any more depressed. Poor K turned the conversation to the shower cake, which turned into a rant about her wedding cake! This girl is the center of the universe, I swear.

My friend and I recapped later (that is always fun after these types of events!) and she commented on how Poor K monopolized the conversation and put a damper on the fun at our table. The friend and I had been to another shower in this group last year and had a great time -- I think because Poor K was sick that day and didn't attend. What we noticed is that at the previous shower we were able to chat and have fun with people we had just met, at this shower we were stuck in the audience of the Poor K Show. It is difficult to be around my sister anymore because she is STILL bridezilla. When does it end????