So, I'm kind of pissed off again about Mother's Day. This is the 2nd one without my Mom (I was still in shock for the first) and I'm pissed that it is once again all about my mother inlaw. WTF? I told T that I wanted us to do a brunch with his mom so MY day wouldn't be wasted. After 13 years of marriage I have learned to ask for what I want. I don't want my whole day spent with her -- she isn't exactly my favorite person and I still somewhat resent her for surviving all of her medical stuff (and not caring for herself) when my mom (who ate right and exercised) dies of cancer at just 63. How NOT FAIR is that? I know it is mean to resent her for being alive, but I guess it is pretty normal to be that way so I'll get over it.

Anyway, I suggest a brunch at 11 so we can make it home to do planting and just relax after a marathon week. Now it turns out his sister is broke so she don't want to go out to brunch -- she wants it at her house. She suggested 1pm for BRUNCH. Fuck that shit. My husband T. suggests we do noon. Better, but not by much. DAMMIT. I guess I'm a spoiled brat, but since I'm a mom too I thought I should not have MY day ruled by my mother inlaw. DAMMIT. Now don't get me wrong. I'm glad my mother inlaw is still alive. I do think she deserves for her children to do something for her on her day. But I still think I deserve some relaxation time WITHOUT my inlaws. Am I nuts?