Hubby feels better now that we've talked about the elephant in the room. I changed my suggestion from talking to the family doctor to talking to a counselor we went to a few years back during a rough patch. She is really good at helping you talk it out until you come up with your own solution. She is a wonderful family adviser and even helped with the kids when we went through a difficult time with meshing our parenting styles.
Anyway, Hubby will be calling her. I suggested that he could use a sympathetic non-judgmental ear on which to vent about everything. I support him, but when I'm overwhelmed and pushing myself through it is impossible for me to be a decently supportive person. When your thoughts are inwardly focused you do not make incredibly supportive and sympathetic statements.
Blogging here helps me fight off depression. I write out the thoughts worries and then move on. I don't think this would work for hubby, but he definitely needs an outlet. Giving up some of the things on our schedule would only take away the fun parts (like soccer, it takes time but give us so much pleasure). You need the fun parts. So, we shall see. He said he felt better just talking about it.
My sister has been telling more people her good news and I'm truly happy for her. I'm putting her weirdness behind me but will call her on it next time she puts me in an awkward position or makes me uncomfortable.
I have survived the Monday and Tuesday marathons... the rest of the week is cake when compared :-)
2 comments:
i fight depression too. it's has taken a grasp on my mother and brother at times. i refuse to let it invade my life. i am, however, still experiencing the effects from being laid-off in a corporate downsizing last spring. i was truly depressed. losing that job definitely affected me in ways that are hard to explain. i was doing such a good job there i couldn't believe i was losing it all. my brain knew it was the economy but my heart couldn't accept that.
good for you guys for getting help in whatever form. Just acknowledging it helps. I suffer from depression (as everyone arounds me suffers by association). I am only a blog or an email away if you want a BTDT shoulder. Hugs, melzie
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