"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened." Matthew 7:7-8
Pamela gave me this comforting verse not that long ago when I was depressed about Hubby and depression (sounds redundant, but hey...).
So I am knocking on the door and asking for more prayers. Hubby is still battling depression. He is still not himself. He is still lacking motivation and I almost don't recognize him at times. He isn't mean. He isn't hurtful. He is just selfish and unmotivated. He gives in many ways (picking up the kids, doing the laundry), but then totally comes up clueless on things that are so very basic (no need for details). It is classic depression. He sleeps all the time and is never rested. I'm trying to get him into the doctor for depression, sleep, and follow up on that broken foot.
I'm lucky, I tend to snap out of my depression (which runs in our family). Hubby is not so lucky. He is really struggling and I don't know how to help him.
So, I'm asking for prayers for Hubby. I don't think he will snap out of it until he has a day job and is no longer working overnight for poor pay. Our family is suffering and it needs to change. Please pray for him. Thanks in advance!
(I know, I'm quiet for so long during student teaching and now you see a flurry of posts -- student teaching is almost over and I have a tad more free time since I'm getting better at the balance. I can't wait to be a teacher!).
3 comments:
I hope you can convince him to see a doctor or counselor ? ? ?
I struggle with the shadows, too. Especially this time of year.
Prayers are good. Prayers with anti-depressants are better.
What you described was *ME* in detail, about 7 years ago.
Yes, he needs to go see a doctor. I was on very mild anti-d meds for a short while and they did the trick. Sometimes a simple short course of medication can casue wonderous results. Encourage him to do it, as I can totally honestly tell you it saved my life.
Also, for you - STICK WITH HIM! He needs you SO badly at this point, because he doesn't have the emotional stanima to support himself just at the moment. Please do not give up on him!!! He needs you!
I know... my wife totally walked away from me right at that point, and ended up marrying another man. It totally crushed me. She left me right when i needed her the most.
So yeah, i totally appreciate that things are tough, he's being totally unreasonable and selfish in so many ways, but one the the BEST things you can do for him is to stay there for him, tell him you love him, and just be there for him when you can. That will be huge for him, and help him to begin to find his way back out of the "Black Dog".
Depression is a nasty mistress. you know you feel black, you know what you're thinking and saying is unreasonable and selfish - but you're not doing it deliberately! You know you're feeling out of character, and you hate feeling this way, but you just don;t seem to have the emotional fuel to somehow drag yourself out of it. it's tough. it's really tough.
So yeah, if you can strongly encourage him to talk frankly about it with your family doctor, and also if you could stick by him thru the tough times, it will surely pay off in the loong run.
For the kids' sakes. he loves his kids. he loves you. he loves his family. Just at the present moment he feels totally emotionally empty and has no emotional reservoirs to tap into to be able to tell you that.
Hang in there. [[[hugs]]]
Cyalayta
Mal :)
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