So, I talked to him. I just laid it all on the table and didn't back down. It is crap that Hubby doesn't have a decent job or savings after busting his butt in the family business for 20 years. But he needs to go out there and make something happen.
A job isn't going to just walk up and hand itself over. In this day and age you must work over every contact you have and then network your ass off. It isn't that I don't understand where he is at. I have fought depression all of my life. I know what it is to be paralyzed. BUT, you have to pick yourself up and kick your own ass into gear at some point.
So, he will follow up on the previous hot lead gone cold one more time. And he is sending resumes online daily. Maybe I'll pick him up a book at the library. Hello. Time to stop waiting and time to MAKE something happen. We are financially ruined and need to start digging out. Our credit is destroyed, we are at negative equity on the home, all emergency funds are depleted. Get another job already.
The money and job concerns are very stressful. I'm tired of being a dead beat. I'm tired of mean letters. I'm worried about the future. I'm sick at the thought of not being able to take a teaching job since it will pay less than the job I currently hate (We knew this cut would come when I went back to school for teaching, we just didn't know that the family business would ruin us or that Hubby's paycheck at a new job would be a pittance).
I miss him so much. It stinks that we are on opposite schedules. I don't know how other couples make this work. It is making me crazy. Yes, he is there for this kids -- but I miss my husband! He is tired all of the time. I understand, but it needs to change.
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i'm sorry you are going through all of this and experiencing hard times. what was the family business and how did it ruin everything???
Hey Jennster -- no worries, this too shall pass. The family business was construction. Hanging in too long in a dying economy was what brought financial ruin. We should have cut bait and not continued to pour our own money into it... lesson learned. You can't sacrifice yourself to save your family when the ship is going down no mater what. We should have jumped ship, we didn't, we will pay for that for a long time. I just don't want to lose our house. Hopefully we will not get to that point.
Keep looking up. HE is there -- and He doesn't forsake you.
Pamela, I will! I do believe that HE will guide us through this. I know it can be worse and I appreciate the good. It would just be nice to be a little further from the financial edge :-)
sounds a bit like what life here has been like lately! hope things look up for you.
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